Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind
I just saw the movie. I think everyone has got to watch it once in their lifetime. There are so many thoughts that have taken birth in my head after watching the movie that I don't know which one to write about first.
Would we really be able to love our beloveds better if we erase all the previous memories of them? As if it were a new start? Is that even the solution?
It's fictional in the movie, that a non-surgical memory erasing method has been developed. But in real life too we try to achieve the same effect of "getting over" or "getting past" our previous relationship by perhaps jumping into a new one without thought, thinking "oh this one seems better than the previous one".
But Nature doesn't have a provision like that! "selectively erasing the memories of a person we want to get over!"
It's our own quest. Our own journey.
The key to a real 'spotless mind' is perhaps to make it work. Anyhow...
If there is Love, anything can work! There's got to be Listening. Giving. Accepting. And of course a will to give it the best shot. Because nobody is perfect. People are like children. They make mistakes. Some BIG. Some real small. There has to be a certain degree of informality in the relationship, where one is allowed to make mistakes.
That's what I learnt from the movie. It's an invaluable lesson.
I also believe, from my own experience now, that if there is still a little love in the heart, you cannot really 'get over' in the real sense...You take the person WITH you, wherever you may go.
And if you HAVE moved on, then the love is over too!